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Why You NEED to Stay Out After Sunset on Your Elopement Day

Stunning Night Sky Elopement & Wedding Photos

SWELL & STONE / ADVENTURE WEDDING & ELOPEMENT PHOTOGRAPHER / UNITED STATES AND BEYOND

Couple enjoy the milky way on Block Island in Rhode Island during their elopement. Rhode Island elopement photographer
Starry night sky elopement. Rhode Island elopement photographer. Boston elopement photographer.
Couple dance under full moon in Moab. Moab elopement photographer. Moab wedding photographer.
Night sky elopement wedding in Acadia National Park. Married couple enjoy the starry night sky in Maine. Maine elopement packages. Acadia National Park elopement.
Star trails on Lake Champlain during Vermont elopement. Vermont elopement photographer.

When the sun goes down and blue hour sets in, a lot of couples think it’s time to pack up and call it a night or head indoors for their celebration, but others opt to stay out under the night sky and see what kind of show the evening will put on for them. From catching the full moon rising, to dancing your first dance around a campfire under the milky way- I promise, it’s worth it to stay out after dark if you have a photographer who knows how to capture those low light situations. This happens to be one of my specialties, so here are some of my favorite ways to capture couples in love after the sun goes down.

Full Moon Rise

If it’s a full moon night, the full moon rises as the sun sets, and you don’t have to stick around long to catch the moon rising. Along with casting a lot of light on a night sky scene, a full moon rising often looks giant and yellow when it’s lower in the sky. It’s an amazing thing to see, and a lot of couples find that it’s a moment they love to soak in and enjoy.

Milky Way

The core of the Milky Way is only visible in the Northern Hemisphere from March to October. But if you don’t want to stay up very late or get up very early the best time to include the Milky Way in your elopement photos is from mid-June to early October. This is because in mid-June the core of the Milky Way rises just after sunset, and over the course of the summer and into the fall that time gets earlier. So by the time October rolls around the Milky Way can be seen in the night sky for only a brief time before it sets in the dark.

Star Trails

The Milky Way, while spectacular, is not the only way to enjoy the night sky and capture great photos during your elopement. Even on a night when the Milky Way is not visible, it is still possible to capture otherworldly night sky landscapes, like star trails. Star trails are the images above with the stars streaking in a circle across the sky. This type of image is created by taking a series of long exposure images and stitching them together in post-production. For this to work, you just need a (mostly) cloudless night, and a location that has a clear view of the sky to the north. I compose the shot with my camera pointed toward Polaris, the north star, and then I position the couple. The couple only needs to stand still for a few long exposure shots, normally 10 to 30 seconds per shot, and then my camera keeps running, and time-lapses the scene for the next hour or two. While that’s happening sometimes the couple heads out for the night, and sometimes we eat s’mores over the campfire. Either way, I’m happy to continue sitting under the stars while the camera continues capturing the scene.

Campfire

While you’re out either waiting for the Milky Way to rise or just hanging out beneath the stars, another amazing way to capture love under the night sky with limited light is by having a campfire. Along with keeping you warm, it provides a beautiful, natural light that beckons you to snuggle up. Please practice Leave No Trace principles and use an existing fire ring. There are so many amazing options for capturing love around a fire, not to mention the flame symbolism!

Starry Night Sky

Sometimes you end up in a location with a lovely cloudless night, but you can’t see the view facing north, there is no full moon rising, and the Milk Way isn’t rising until later. That’s ok, and taking photos under the stars still looks cool! Even if it’s just for the experience of staying out late and watching the night sky with your loved one, I’ve never had a couple say they regretted staying out under the stars on their wedding night!

More common questions about staying out under the night sky during your elopement

When is the best time of year to capture the night sky?

The best time of year to capture the night sky, in general, is when there are no clouds. As mentioned above, the core of the Milky Way can only be seen in the Northern Hemisphere from March to October, and it’s generally nicer to hang out at night when it’s not too cold outside. That said, winter is still a great time to see the stars in places like the desert southwest. Although it’s still cold and you won’t see the core of the Milky Way, star trail potential is great. In addition to taking the above into consideration, a full moon makes it’s hard to capture the stars, so it’s best to plan around the moon if you’re set on getting star photos.

Where are the best locations to elope with a chance to see a starry night sky?

In general, the desert is one of the best places to see the night sky. There are a few reasons for this. First, it is impossible to take good night sky photos with a lot of light pollution, so you need to be far enough away from metro areas to not have the light leak into your photo. It’s easy to get to the middle of nowhere in the desert. And second, the desert sky is often cloudless, which removes another big obstacle to astrophotography. Lastly, you will find unobstructed views in all directions in the desert. It’s harder to take great night sky photos deep in a forest, just because it’s more difficult to find a somewhat open view of the sky.

This doesn’t mean that you can’t take night sky photos if your elopement is in a different location. It’s best to chat with your photographer to find out what is possible for your elopement day and location.

How long do we have to stand still?

Generally only 10 to 30 seconds at a time for a total of about a minute or two. I always like to take a few frames with the couple in the shot so I can pick the best, most crisp one.

If it’s partly cloudy outside is it still possible? What about if it’s windy?

If it’s partly cloudy it is still possible to take night sky photos, but it is likely not possible to do star trails. This is because you need an hour stretch of cloudless sky to keep the final image consistent. If clouds move through the frame they can ruin the entire image. Although, as you can see with one of my star trail images above, there are clouds running through the frame. High, thin, and wispy clouds don’t ruin the image as much as other types, because they look as though they flow through the frames better than puffy clouds. If it is completely cloudy, but not raining, your only option is to do campfire photos, and no night sky will be possible unless the clouds open up. If it’s raining, it’s probably best to get out of the rain.

If it’s windy, it may be harder to hold still, and your clothes might move even if you don’t. I think that’s okay and I still like many of the images that were taken on windy nights!

What’s the best way to plan for night sky photos during our elopement?

The best way to plan for it is to have a photographer who can keep you updated on what phase the moon will be in, what the weather looks like, and which location would give you the best chance for success. I can’t stress enough that if a night sky photo is important to your elopement that you hire someone with the proven ability to handle a variety of night sky conditions and someone who is knowledgable about astrophotography. It is a style of photography that can’t be faked and takes years to master.

If you’d love an expert to help make this dream come true, get in touch, and let’s start planning your incredible adventure wedding today!

Rethinking Big Wedding Plans? Why You Should Plan a Beautiful Elopement Instead

Why to Change Course from Big Wedding Plans to an Elopement

SWELL & STONE / ADVENTURE WEDDING & ELOPEMENT PHOTOGRAPHER / UNITED STATES AND BEYOND

While a lot of couples, especially outdoorsy pairs, were already trending toward planning elopements and small outdoor weddings instead of a traditional big wedding, even more couples have started to consider this a viable option for their wedding day thanks to the uncertainty of COVID-19. All of 2020 might be a loss for big weddings with hundreds of guests, but couples are finding that they are still able to elope and have a wonderful day if they keep it small and local. Socially distant backyard elopements are popping up and couples are getting creative with their bouquets, custom sewn masks, and a bunch of other details. In 20 years they will tell their kids they got married during and pandemic, and although it might not be what they had originally planned, it sure will be memorable. So even if you’re bummed about postponing or canceling your big wedding, there is still reason to celebrate- you’ve found your forever person- and that is a truly magical thing. Here are some reasons to consider planning an elopement or small outdoor wedding either in addition to or in lieu of a big wedding.

Get Married Outside

There are a lot of unknowns when it comes to getting married outside, I get that. But I’d also argue that’s precisely the beauty of getting married outside. If it rains on your wedding day make sure everyone brings an umbrella, and if you are planning a small wedding or eloping with just the two of you, that’s an easy thing to do. If it’s a warm summer rain, why not dance in the rain? Make it memorable, make it fun, and let’s stop taking ourselves and weddings so seriously- like every little detail has to be in place to make it perfect. If you’re an adventurer, you know better than most that the best adventures and the subsequent stories are the ones where not everything goes right. You encounter a challenge, you overcome, you are better for it. So let’s embrace the sometimes dirty, messy, crazy freaking beautiful outdoors and get married there!

The Day Is Focused on the Love Between You and Your Partner

Eloping is really about having an amazing and memorable day with your partner. You are able to cut out all the things you don’t care about in a sort of no-bullshit approach that a lot of people find more enjoyable than worrying about things like tablecloths and place settings. You don’t have to worry about who you will seat at what table, and who cares if Aunt Linda is upset she didn’t get a corsage. Let’s be honest, it’s great to honor and include your family, but you shouldn’t place their preferences over your own on YOUR wedding day. Eloping or having a small outdoor wedding with some family is a great way to include those super close to you, and if you want you can have a party with everyone else to celebrate later. A lot of couples like how much making this one decision simplifies all the other decisions they eventually have to make. They trade place settings and tablecloths for picnic tables or blankets on the ground. They trade centerpieces on every table for epic bouquets and a beautiful archway to have their ceremony under. A lot of couples roll their elopement and honeymoon into one enjoy the area they’ve eloped in for even longer.

More Flexible Timelines

A traditional wedding day is packed full of getting ready in hotel rooms, taking formal photos with absolutely everyone, and being whisked from place to place as you try to take in all that’s happening. During your elopement day, you can plan a more loose timeline that doesn’t need to be as strictly adhered to. It’s easier to take in the views, chat with family, and spend genuine quality time together. A bonus is that you aren’t inside a dark ballroom so you can enjoy the setting sun and the light changing on the landscape. The most common thing I hear couples say during their wedding day spent in the great outdoors is, “wow, we should do this more often!” And it’s true, life sometimes gets going so fast you forget to take in and appreciate the small things. Eloping in the great outdoors truly allows you to slow down and take in the experience rather than be whisked through it. Think of it as a soak rather than a whirlwind.

More Flexible Vendors

The coronavirus pandemic has really put this one into perspective. If you need to postpone or move your elopement for any reason it is much easier to do that if you were only inviting a few people. I’m a photographer who only shoots elopements and small outdoor weddings, and while the couples I’m working with have been a little stressed out about all the uncertainty and changes, they’ve been able to cope and make solid backup plans. A bonus is that they are working with fewer vendors than a lot of couples who plan big weddings, so there is less coordination both on the guest side and on the vendor side. Less logistical mess means less stress.

Eloping Is More Affordable

I have a whole separate blog post about just how much more affordable it is to elope, called “How Much Does It Cost to Elope?” There’s even a handy calculator so you can get a rough estimate of how much it will cost based on your wants. But to summarize, it’s at least half as expensive. So just think of what you could do with all that extra money- go on trips, learn new skills, buy a car, save for a down payment on a house. Something I’ve heard repeatedly from couples during this pandemic is that it really forced them to slow down and decide on the things that really matter to them. I’ve heard people say that they want to save for a house for their family, they just want to keep more of their funds secure during these uncertain times, and that they really felt a sense of relief when they made the decision to elope. And most of them have ultimately said that it really feels like “more them” to begin with! That’s right, a lot of people felt like they were having big weddings for other people, and when the pandemic gave them an excuse to have a more pared-down affair they felt relief! While I’m so glad they came to that decision for themselves, it shouldn’t take a pandemic to get you to decide to elope. If you feel like that is what’s best for you, please don’t hesitate to DO IT! Here’s a link to a post about why couples decide to elope in the great outdoors.

Making Memories with Your Life Partner

Why not have a great adventure that kicks off the greatest adventure yet with your life partner. Entering into marriage with another human is a wild ride. A lot of couples who choose to elope have been together for a while already, and might even have kids together. Some of them are new and freshly in love. Either way eloping in the wild is a great adventure, and it creates unforgettable memories that you will be able to relive through the photos for decades to come. Remember what Kesha said, “someday soon, your whole life's gonna change, you'll miss the magic of these good old days.” And it’s so true. So breath deep, take it all in and remember it is a great day to be alive.

I hope this outlined some of the great reasons why planning an elopement or small outdoor wedding instead of a traditional wedding can be beneficial for many couples, especially in these uncertain times. The most important thing is honoring and celebrating the love between you and your partner, and when you strip it down to that being the most important thing, a lot of the stress and indecisiveness falls away. If you’d love help planning your small outdoor wedding or elopement, please get in touch today. I do more than just take amazing photos- I help couples plan the day of their dreams in the location of their dreams.

Elopement & Outdoor Wedding Planning Guide

Small Outdoor Wedding & Elopement Planning Checklist

SWELL & STONE / ADVENTURE WEDDING & ELOPEMENT PHOTOGRAPHER / UNITED STATES AND BEYOND

Ok, you know you want a different kind of wedding, one where the flowers are wild, and the decor is…grand, and happens to have naturally existed for millennia. 

Whether you choose an intimate destination wedding with friends and family or an elopement with just the two of you is entirely up to you, and the beauty of it all is that there are no rules! You can create a day that truly reflects your relationship. Congrats on being awesome, doing your own thing, and not playing by an obscure traditional rulebook.

So if you’ve dreamed of running through the mountains with your dress flowing behind you, staying out beneath the stars, or getting hitched on the beach and paddling out on your surfboard for a “first surf” instead of a “first dance,” you’ve come to the right place. 

Define “elopement”

It can mean a lot of different things, and there is no one way to elope. It can be an adventure close to home with some family, or a faraway destination with just the two of you. Normally a couple decides what to do based on the things that are really important to themselves and their partner. Elopements often take place on public lands, and it is always important to inquire to see if a permit is needed for the ceremony. For my photography purposes, I define an elopement as an outdoor adventure wedding with fewer than 15 guests.

Define “Small Outdoor Wedding”

A small outdoor wedding often takes place on the grounds of an AirbNb, family home property, lodge, camp, or resort area, and occasionally on public lands. I define “small outdoor weddings” as weddings with 15-35 guests. Often couples want an adventure wedding but still want to include family. They will dedicate one day to activities with family and getting ready, the ceremony, and the reception, and the following day they go on an outdoor adventure with just the two of them.

What kind of planning is involved?

You can start planning anywhere from 1 week to 2 years in advance. Generally, couples plan 6-12 months out which gives you time to plan travel, inform family and friends- if they are coming along- and find the location that works best for you. Beyond that, you can include as many or a few things as you want. Most people hire a photographer, but you and choose to do video as well, hire a florist, get a cake, hire an officiant, book a train ride, hike a mountain, paddle a river, etc… or not! That’s the beauty of your adventure wedding day- it’s entirely up to you!

How much does it cost to elope or have a small outdoor wedding?

Compared to a traditional wedding, eloping is a fraction of the cost. The average wedding in the U.S. costs over $35,000. You can plan the greatest elopement adventure of all time for less than half that amount. Plan to spend 50-75% of your budget on photography, and the rest on travel, attire, rings, hair & makeup, your marriage license, attire, and food. For small outdoor weddings, expect to spend a bit more because you need to account for more catering costs and more in total reception costs.

Can family/friends come?

Of course! “Eloping” used to meaning running away from your family and getting married without their knowledge. You can still absolutely do that, but a majority of couples who elope now do so to keep things simple, focus on what’s important to them, and make sure they truly enjoy their day. For a lot of them, that means a few family members or friends are present for their day! 

Stages of Planning

  1. Dream- What is your vision for your big day? Have you always imagined a spot in a secluded forest or an unreal journey through a sandstone slot canyon? Whatever it is, dream big! We can make it happen. 

  2. Plan- What time of year is best in your dream spot? Find a photographer who can help guide you through location logistics and is experienced in this specialized style of weddings. Start to make your dream reality.

  3. Book- Decide on a location. Find a place to stay. Arrange transportation. Put together any permits you may need. Book flowers, hair and makeup.

  4. Finalize- Finish planning all details with vendors. Decide on attire. Plan activities, and finalize a wedding day timeline.

  5. Enjoy- Enjoy every single second of the beautiful day. Remember inclement weather makes for the best stories (and photos) later. Relish the adventure.

Important Logistics

Here are a few things to keep in mind as you go through the process of working out the logistics of getting married.

  1. What are the local marriage laws and requirements?

  2. Do you want other people there?

  3. What’s the weather like in your chosen location this time of year?

  4. Is this location a popular and crowded or secluded?

  5. How accessible is the location? How will you get there?

  6. Do you need a permit to take photos or to have the ceremony?

  7. Will you do a “first look”?

  8. What kind of activities would you like to include on your wedding day?

  9. Do you want a picnic, champagne, or another kind of celebratory drink/meal?

  10. What vendors do you need? Is it easy for them to get there, or bring items before?

Marriage Laws

Marriage laws differ from state to state

Research the paperwork you will need to have before and after, and determine whether you need an officiant and witnesses in the state where you’ve chosen to get married. Every state is different, some require a waiting period, some require blood tests, and some don’t require anything. Do your research and find out what you need in your state.

But don’t let the paperwork throw you off track. The wedding day you’ve imagined is always possible. In fact, in the majority of elopements, the paperwork is completely taken care of either before or after the elopement. Often times couples wait to sign the official document until right after they say the vows.

Whatever you choose to do, you commit your life to your partner the day you say your vows…the rest is just legalities. Here is a great resource for what you need to know based on whatever state you happen to be in.

Couple take anniversary photos on Mt. Major in New Hampshire in the winter. New Hampshire elopement photographer.

Weather

High & low season

During “high season” you are likely to find the nicest weather but don’t rule out the low season. I like booking elopements in a location “low season” because it means fewer crowds, easier transportation, and seeing a different side of a place. However, it also means potential road closures, restricted access, and bad weather. Contact a local, ranger, or guide service to find out what is possible in your location during the time frame you are considering for your elopement.

What if the weather is bad?

You can only do so much to avoid bad weather. Start by researching beforehand to determine seasonal average temps, rain/snowfall, and wind. 

If you want to go in the low season to avoid crowds make sure to research seasonal road and transportation closures that may impact your day. Also, think about extreme weather like wildfires, floods tornadoes, and hurricanes. 

There is always the chance of bad weather during an outdoor elopement. It’s best to be prepared with the right gear and mindset. Just like you prepare for anything when you plan to hike a mountain or go for any other outdoor adventure, make sure you have everything you might need from bug spray to rain gear to hand warmers, depending on the season. And remember, sometimes bad weather makes for the best story and photos.

Permits

LEGAL RESTRICTIONS & ETHICS

When researching a location for the exact spot you want to say your vows, make sure it’s a legal and ethical spot to have a wedding ceremony. There are some locations that have laws against any type of ceremony, and some places where having a wedding ceremony wouldn’t be appropriate.

IS A PERMIT NECESSARY?

On most public lands and private properties, yes. Many also require a separate one for your photographer. The general rule is to assume you need to have a permit or ask permission unless you are told otherwise by someone with authority.

LEAVE NO TRACE

Make sure you follow all 7 Leave No Trace principles during your elopement. That means be careful where you walk, leave the beautiful place just as you found it, and make sure to not have your ceremony in a fragile environment.

A newly married couple celebrate with family and friends at Auto Camp Yosemite outside Yosemite National Park in California. Yosemite elopement photographer. Yosemite wedding photographer.

FUN, ACTIVITIES, CELEBRATE

FOOD & DRINKS

Pack a picnic, get it catered, reserve the side patio of your favorite area eatery- whatever you decide to do makes sure it’s something you love. We will likely be running around all day so make sure you stay hydrated and well-fed.

FUN STUFF

Some people want to go on a hike, some want to stand up paddleboard, others skydive, go on hot air balloon rides, or surf! Your wedding day can look however you want! That’s the beauty of eloping.

If you are hiking to your ceremony location make sure to find a comfortable hiking pack. If going before sunrise, perhaps pack your attire instead of hiking in it, and change when you get to the location.

Bring extra layers, bug spray, sunscreen, headlamps, plenty of food and water, etc...!

CHAMPAGNE, CONFETTI, SPARKLERS

Celebrating is important, but we always do so in an eco-friendly way! We make sure to pick up the champagne cork, use local leaves as confetti, and check fire bans before lighting sparklers.

FINALIZE WITH A CHECKLIST

I hope this guide helps answer questions you didn’t even know you had. It’s a beautiful thing when you realize your wedding day doesn’t have to follow the same framework that everyone else’s weddings do, it can be catered to you and your partner’s unique tastes. So keep the traditions you love, toss aside the ones you don’t care about, and let’s plan an incredible adventure for your wedding day and create memories and photos that will last a lifetime.